The Power of Forgiveness: Healing from Pain and Rebuilding Relationships

Forging is not as easy as it looks,

When you are really hurt by the people you love a lot, when they hurt your soul, they make marks with pain.

When you give them your trust and love more than you can, when you feel that they are more important people in your life than anything and when they hurt you more than your imagination.

When you are not expecting any sort of harm from them when your soul says that they can never hurt you,

When you have never learned to take the bark of a knife in the back from them, when you have ever been the best friends and family share and care for everything when you have given everything, your time, love affection, trust, genuineness, and faithfulness to that relationship and In return you got the nightmare with thrones and you are not prepared, their you don’t know how to take it, you have taken it that which broken your trust, believes and liveliness and when you are no more the same person who you were, you are so broken that each day your heart becomes a new broken piece which is hurting you with the unexpected return, you became dead from inside where relationships were hunting and life became horrible and you are all alone going forward in the empty path where everything is dark, you realized that no bond is true.

Then is it easy to forgive someone?

Is it easy to forgive all the tears they gave you?

Is it easy to forgive who gave you to walk all alone over this path?

No, it's truly not easy to decide to forgive, especially when they have given the pain and brokenness in return and made you break all the threads of relations with your loved one even with your family who has been with you forever.

It can never be easy but is it important to forgive them?

Do they deserve that forgiveness?

Do you have that big heart that you can forgive them and welcome back them into your life?

Forgiveness is a choice, and it's not always easy. It takes time, patience, and a lot of self-reflection. But it's worth it. When you forgive someone, you're not only freeing yourself from the pain, but you're also opening yourself up to love and happiness.

And I believe yes, as I have gone through all this stage you have to take a step to go to them how much stormy the pain is, even how much you’re really hurt, even how much you hate to face them and talk to them is, I really know it’s a huge step but when you are prepared when you have taken enough time to yourself, It's about choosing to let go of the past and live in the present.

A big step when you are stronger than your pain, where you have learnt that anyone in this life can hurt you and it's you who can stop that pain, but you should not stop yourself from believing in life, trusting in good people, being happy for yourself, helping yourself grow, feeling blissful of what god gave you, trusting his plan and holding the faith firmly, you can stop in the empty path with darkness which is in yourself but you have to see the sunshine which is at the end of the path, you have to stand up, walk or crawl towards that as the people who hurt you may not know how much they have damaged you mentally, but its science when damaged cells leave, new cells start its life, just like this you too need to leave the room to start the new life, you need to start from the point where you stopped without moving, where your life ended.

Forgive someone with your whole heart when they have given so much to hate?

I heard a podcast 3 days ago where I heard the Quran said how to say sorry, you have to say Sorry or ask for an apology when you have sensed the pain of the sufferer instead it means nothing if it is said as they are doing any favor by asking it, then I realized to and started to wait for people who hurt me to realize the pain that they gave me, so that I can forgive them, what is needed when people who hurt you did realize the pain they gave.

I am ready to forgive them, did come to me with a feeling of guilt after 4 years, but yet it’s not easy to forgive them because it was difficult to listen, feel to do it and actually doing it.

I kept this aside and days flowed as it does, today I realized even I did hurt my family and my loved ones because of this situation because I was broken and bleeding with pain and whoever came to console and help me to heal I did hurt them, I realized how deeply I could have said words in pain to which I never mean them, I realized the pain I gave them when I expected them to forgive me, but I am feeling shameful to ask forgiveness.

Today I took a chit from my bowl stating Quran verse:

· “Forgive others as quickly as you expect Allah (God) to forgive you.”

I realized how much pain I caused my loved ones and I really desperately want them and Allah SWT to forgive me for my behavior what I did, I called them who hurt me and asked to say sorry then I forgave them from my heart and asked my apology to hurt them if I did so, and called my loved one kept my heart out, cried, said sorry said I missed them and showed my pain of missing them and they did forgive me not even a minute took for them to forgive me and said that they loved me yet even after hurting them so badly.

I really felt the blessing of Allah SWT, Now I can sense how easy my heart became and how comfortable my scares feel now,

How happy my soul feels, the strong step to forgive the one who hurt you is worth the happiness of getting forgiven, Bonds got tied again with love and cherishes, but truly I know you cannot remove the face of the scare but you realize who is yours and who is not, whom you have to give your emotions and towards whom you have to hold yourself from sharing.

May Allah SWT give every human the ability to forgive and the strength to ask forgiveness.

Though it was not easy… but was worth it.